Your sexual life is real, and genuine intimacy means the physical and emotional connection you have with your partner. This part of yourself is vital to overall good health!
A review this year shows results from over twenty sexual studies. Nearly 4,000 men and 2,500 women reported less sexual activity and more sexual dysfunctions during COVID lockdowns.
Some couples turn to sex toys to bring the excitement of a “fling” back into their relationship.
But can sex tools alone help you fight erectile dysfunction?
And what the heck is your last fling?
Here’s what to know!
Barriers in Your Sexual Life
COVID created a bubble, with families stuck at home and fearing the worse. It’s not a surprise that this led to an increase in sexual dysfunctions.
There have always been roadblocks to a great sexual life. Stress from your career affects your desire, leading to resentment in personal relationships.
Intimacy Meaning
Intimacy, meaning that bond with your partner, shouldn’t be confused with zero privacy and being stuck in one place—ideally, your connection strengthens as you experience life’s ups and downs.
That leads to caring about your partner, making you closer and more comfortable together over time.
The Highs and Lows of Intimacy
If you’re wondering, your sexual life can follow a pattern similar to many people’s relationships.
For instance, when you’re fresh in love, you’ll probably feel super-close and excited (maybe you used sex tools!), and it’s normal to engage in a lot of sex.
When couples start a family, their intimacy can drastically change. If you’ve had a baby, your exhaustion and lack of privacy can affect your sexual life in disappointing ways.
But even if you’re kid-free, that “honeymoon” phase in a relationship generally drops off after several years. At this point, sex (when it happens) can feel routine.
You Can Improve Your Sexual Life Now

Most of us realize that COVID (like the flu) is here to stay. But with proper vaccinations, people can return to enjoying their lives with some normalcy.
Maybe you’re travelling again after a dry spell or getting ready for the kids to return to school. You may think that it’s better to wait, but when it comes to your sexual life, there’s no time like now to get your mojo back!
6 Sexual Life Tips
Improving intimacy means communicating more, taking the pressure off yourself, ignoring myths, and even using sex tools or toys!
#1 Spontaneity Is a Myth
Fantasies like those depicted in movies tell us that sex is the hottest when it’s spontaneous. The problem is, that can feel like a magic trick, and you feel forced to pull your desire out of nowhere!
It’s called instinctive desire, and research shows that barely 15% of women studied have experienced it.
A higher percentage of men have experienced an instinctive desire to have sex, but most of us require erotic materials, sensual smells, or sexy talk to get in the mood.
Here’s the takeaway: you can (and should) plan to have sex. Pick a night of the week, or take a short break away alone.
#2 Communication Is Intimacy
Studies have proved that couples who communicate have a healthier relationship, including what you want and desire in your sexual life.
Here are ways to communicate better:
- Be honest in telling your spouse or partner your likes and what you don’t like.
- Share your explicit fantasies.
- If you’d rather not say what your desires are, write them down for your partner (this can be a big turn-on!).
#3 Know What You Need

If you still find communicating hard, think about it first.
What relaxes you, and what makes you feel sensual?
It can be touching your partner, kissing, or talking sexy. Some couples enjoy lingerie sessions or erotica. Maybe a nice meal and a glass of wine (not too much alcohol, because that can affect your desire!).
After you’ve looked inside yourself and know what you need, it’s easier to share those intimate details with your partner.
#4 Remove Distractions
We’re not just talking about those little kiddos clinging onto your ankles!
To truly connect with your partner, distractions need to be eliminated. Shut off the TV, your phone, or other electronic devices posing as entertainment.
Closeness and intimacy are worth it, and the physical desire you can feel is more fun than anything!
#5 No Shame in Sex Tools
Some people swear by sex toys, but we prefer sex tools because when they get used safely and correctly, they are no joke!
Suppose you’re experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED). In that case, the safe use of recommended sex tools like penis rings, pumps, or lubricants can have a medical benefit that helps a person enjoy satisfying and intimate sex again.
But everyone is different, and if you’d prefer not to use toys, there are other proven treatments for ED that can offer long-lasting results.
#6 So, What’s the Last Fling?
We call it the last fling because it brings to mind the anticipating of planning for intimacy with a partner.
Whether it’s an evening or a getaway, you’ll feel less stress “getting in the mood” when you know you’re sexually healthy. Intimacy means self-awareness and putting yourself first.

But how do you gauge your physical and sexual health right now?
Our men’s health numbers are available, and it’s a great way to be more in tune with your body and mind.
If you’re concerned about your sexual life, schedule a checkup with your doctor, or contact a men’s clinic that deals explicitly in sexual issues.
We offer free online consultations, and you can also schedule a visit to one of our GTA clinics today.
You deserve more intimacy and that “last fling,” and you can fight ED. At OHN, We get you there!
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