10 Questions Men Are Afraid to Ask About Penis

Do you know the average length of a penis?

It’s a general question that concerns a lot of people. But it’s also a perfect example of a typical issue that many men wonder about but are afraid to ask about their penis! 

Here’s another question that concerns countless people, but men may be afraid to ask: how to measure penis size?

These aren’t the kind of questions people are generally comfortable talking about in public. As we’ve found, many men are also afraid to ask about ejaculatory dysfunction if that’s troubling them too. 

We’re changing the conversation today with answers to the top ten questions you may have had about your penis but are afraid to ask. As a trusted leader in men’s sexual health, we know there are no silly questions, and we understand your concerns. 

When you want proven solutions and real results, we get you there. So let’s get into this!

1. What Is the Average Length of a Penis?

So many people wonder if their penis size is “normal,” and here’s the scientific truth. There’s no such thing as an average penis size!

Think of it this way: your penis size will depend on genetics. Similarly, other physical characteristics like your eye colour or the size of your hands or feet can get traced back through your family line. 

Penis Size

While we’re at this, let’s dispel an age-old rumour too. Contrary to what you might have heard, your penis size does not affect your sexual performance in any way.

2. How Can I Increase My Penis Size?

The plain truth is you can’t permanently change your penis size without having implant surgery. 

If you want to improve the girth of your penis temporarily, it may be achievable through injectable treatments. 

You may have seen an ad or heard a commercial giving the impression that a product or procedure can somehow enlarge the size of a penis, but the truth is, there are no instant solutions, and these methods can be physically harmful.

However, we know of a healthy and natural way of improving how your penis looks and how you feel overall mentally and physically—losing weight! 

3. How Do I Measure Penis Size?

While you can measure the length of your penis with a ruler and the width of your penis with a piece of string, it’s better and more convenient to use a flexible measuring tape that can do both. Whatever you do, always measure your erect penis.

Here’s how to measure the length of your penis with a measuring tape:

  • First, measure your erect penis from where it starts over your scrotum to the tip. 
  • For the most accurate measurement, it’s important to feel for your pubic bone through your skin, especially if your belly hangs over your genitals. 

To measure the width of your penis:

  • Wrap a flexible measuring tape over the thickest part of your penis and look for the number of the measuring tape where the ends meet.

If you’re still concerned about your penis size, a recent study of women’s preferences found some interesting conclusions.

The study found that women preferred only a “slightly” larger-than-average penis for one-time sexual encounters, and the preference went down even more for people in longer-term sexual relationships.

4. How Do I Control Premature Ejaculation or Ejaculatory Dysfunction?

Premature Ejaculation

If you come more quickly than you want during sexual intercourse, it’s a common situation and an example of ejaculatory dysfunction.

Here are a few techniques you can try that may help in prolonging your release when you sense that premature ejaculation is happening:

The “Squeeze”

Place your index finger on the back of your penis, where the head meets the shaft. Next, place your thumb on the other side, and squeeze gently for a count of thirty. Repeat several times if necessary.

The “Stop-start” 

Either you or a partner stimulates your penis until you’re ready to orgasm. At that point, stop stimulating the penis until the urge to come is gone. Keep repeating this “stop-start” action to learn precisely when you’re ejaculating and how you can control it. 

Behavioural Exercises

It’s a scientific fact that condoms can reduce some sensitivity to the penis during sex, and wearing a condom may help to delay ejaculation. Additionally, here are some techniques you can research to help control premature ejaculation:

  • Precoital masturbation
  • Extended foreplay
  • Cognitive distraction
  • Alternate sex positions
  • Interval sex or increasing sexual frequency.

Pelvic Floor Exercises

Your pelvis is like any other muscle group, and you can strengthen it with exercises designed for your pelvic muscles.

Strengthening your pelvic floor can go far in controlling ejaculation, and we offer pelvic floor physiotherapy for that reason.

5. What’s With the Curve in My Penis?

You may notice that your penis is slightly bent when it’s erect, and that may be normal.

However, you should be aware of Peyronie’s disease, which can get diagnosed by a medical professional when a person’s penis curves more than 30 degrees. This condition causes pain during sex or makes sex impossible.

A surgical graft can treat Peyronie’s disease with a penile prosthesis, but we also offer effective, non-surgical treatments including:

  • Acoustic Shockwave Therapy can reduce the scar tissue in the penis (called plaque) caused by Peyronie’s disease.
  • P-Shot uses your blood to help heal the scar tissue and help to accelerate healing.

6. Why Can’t I Get an Erection?

Erectile Dysfunction Reasons

The answer to that question will depend on whether you’re occasionally unable to get an erection or when you’re constantly unable to get an erection or keep your penis hard during sex—if it’s constant, it may be erectile dysfunction (or impotence). 

There are many reasons why erectile dysfunction (ED) may be happening:

  • Health problems like vascular diseases, Peyronie’s disease, epilepsy, or injuries like a trauma to the spinal cord are called organic conditions that may cause ED.
  • Anxiety, depression, or dependence on internet porn are medically referred to as psychogenic issues that may cause ED.
  • Heavy smoking or drinking, frequent cannabis use or heavy illegal drug use, or reliance on prescribed medications like antidepressants are lifestyle risk factors that may cause ED.

If you’re concerned about ED, please see a doctor or a men’s health specialist for answers. There’s no need to feel any shame about what’s causing your ED, and effective treatments are available!

7. Should I Urinate After Sex?

Scientists believe that “peeing” after sexual intercourse can reduce infections in your urinary tract. We always advise people to drink plenty of water and take regular bathroom breaks to decrease the risk of infections!

8. Why Do I Get Random Erections?

Men of any age experience erections out of nowhere, although it’s more common and considered normal and healthy in teenagers or young adults.

When the male body starts producing testosterone in abundance, it may cause an erection, but scientists tell us that’s not the only reason. Random erections are a bit of a medical mystery! 

9. What’s With Morning Erections?

If you’ve ever woken up with an erection or “morning wood,” it’s a natural sign that your body is giving you good news!

Getting a morning erection means your nerves and blood circulation are healthy, and even better news, getting erections during sleep typically means you’ll have good erections during sex.

10. Why Can’t I Repeat an Erection Right Away?

Refractory Period

So you get a satisfactory erection, but you can’t get another one after that. The cause is called a refractory period, and it may last for three minutes or 24-hours, or longer.

Your refractory period will depend on one or all of the following:

  • Your age
  • Your health overall
  • The significance of your sexual relationships (temporary or permanent)
  • Your satisfaction during sex
  • Your sexual frequency

Researchers are studying how hormones contribute to the length of the refractory period. For example, when a penis ejaculates, the dopamine and testosterone levels drop, and a hormone called prolactin rises. This hormonal change and fluctuation may contribute to the refractory period, but it’s still unproven.

Men, Don’t Be Afraid to Ask About Your Penis!

Hopefully, you’re more at ease now about all the common questions like the so-called “average length,” how to measure your penis size, as well as any concerns you may have about ejaculatory dysfunction.

But you may have other questions you are afraid to ask too, and we’re here to answer these questions and continue the conversation about men’s sexual health.

We provide effective solutions to help you with erectile dysfunction now, not later, when the problem may worsen and affect you physically and psychologically.

Oakwood Health Network has been a leader in men’s health issues and multi-treatment strategies since we opened our first clinic in Oakville in 2018. We now operate three clinics in the GTA, and our doctors, nurses and therapists value sexual health as a vitally important area of your life.

We treat every patient individually, respecting your privacy in our confidential clinic setting. At OHN, we give you the world. Schedule your Free Consultation Online Today!

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